Peer Pressure
Peer groups are a good way to learn how to get along with others, how to interact with the opposite sex, and how to help you find your own identity by being exposed to many kinds of personalities. Friends help you develop your interests and give you real life examples of how others cope with difficult situations.
Choose your own friends. You will have more fun and be comfortable with friends who have similar values. Find friends who share your values. Saying"no" to things that you aren't ready for, or are uncomfortable with, doesn't have to isolate you. It might lead you to new and better friends.
By definition, a "peer" is one who is similar and equal to you. Peer groups only become harmful if you don't feel you can be yourself in the group, and you feel pressured to do things you know are wrong or you feel uncomfortable with. Peer pressure is often a factor behind behaviors that are harmful to your health such as alcohol or drug use, sexual activity, or tobacco use. These are choices that can have permanent consequences-Drug or alcohol use can lead to the loss of your drivers license or an arrest record that can follow you for life. Bad choices now can hurt your chances for success later in life.
Remove yourself from situations where you are uncomfortable. Always leave home knowing who to call to pick you up in an emergency. Remember that decisions you make now can have permanent consequences and you should not do anything that closes a door to your future. Sometimes it is best to anticipate situations you may find yourself in-in other words, think ahead. Practice saying phrases like:
- No thanks.
- That's not too cool.
- That's not for me.
- I've got better things to do.
This is a time when you need to learn to take control, not be controlled. The more you practice this the better you will be at it. You may be surprised how many others will decide to follow your lead. This is peer pressure at its best!
